A Good Week

So, my first week back at work has gone really well. Cate is a good napper during the day (we still need to work on sleeping well at night!) and I had no problem getting in my twenty hours this week. I like working from home a lot – if I am disciplined, there are very few distractions and I feel like I have accomplished A LOT in twenty hours. A good feeling. Mendy has been here since Wednesday (going home in a few minutes) and it's been so good to have her here.

But. Let me show you a retrospective pictorial glance at our day yesterday.

outfit 1
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This is Cate's first outfit worn from approximately 7:30-10:30 AM until there was obviously a huge blowout.


outfit 2 – upper half
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This is the upper half of Cate's second outfit. The picture doesn't do the messiness justice. Major spit up, both dried and fresh, festoon her onesie.  Have I mentioned she is a projectile spitter-upper? I can thank myself for those genes.


outfit 2 – lower half
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This is the lower half of Cate's second outfit at approximately 1:25 PM. A small blowout. Thankful for small mercies.


outfit three
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This is Cate's third outfit that she wore until bedtime. As you can imagine, I do lots of baby laundry and have gotten quite good at removing stains. What I have learned in three months… 

New beginnings


g diapers!
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Thankfully, things have been SO much better since my last post. We are chalking up a few bad nights to a three month "growth spurt." A reason, any reason, makes me feel better. A few nights ago, I was up nine different times with Cate, Henry threw up all over the bed, and then Telfer came home at 3:30 a.m. Not conducive to sleep by any means but the worst seems to be over for now.

This week has been a flurry of putting away Christmas decorations (and deciding what we will take to New York versus what needs to be packed well), cleaning and organizing. I start work again on Monday. I will be working from home twenty hours a week. I am going to work mostly in our little library while Cate is asleep (God-willing). This week I have spruced up the room a little: added more lighting, set up a charging station that Alyssa got Telfer for Christmas (so cute), and put together a little work area for myself. I bought a little red chest of drawers from Ikea to store a lot of my work materials in – the amazing part of this story is that I actually put it together myself. I am HORRIBLE at visual directions (versus written) and Telfer has always had to do all of this type of thing. But I did it myself. It looks so cute – I am still not over my childish fascination with multiple little drawers…


little drawers!
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Note: Cate's little bum is very cute of course, but that's not the only reason I took this picture. I tried out gdiapers this week. They are a great concept – the liner is flushable and so they are environmentally friendly AND they are extremely cute. But…they are pretty messy and I had to change her every two hours for sure or she would wet or poop right through them. The verdict is still out…

My Favorite Books of 2008

Besides the Kathleen Norris, you'll notice that my favorite list of books and/or authors is a little short on the nonfiction this year. I consumed copious amounts of books on pregnancy, childbirth, parenting, sleeping, and modern motherhood but listing Calming Your Fussy Baby as a "favorite" is not exactly normal.

Marilynne Robinson


Home by Marilynne Robinson
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I read or reread all three of Robinson's novels this summer: Housekeeping, Gilead, and Home. I was reading Housekeeping when Cate was born and her first literary event was attending a Marilynne Robinson event at the Los Angeles Public Library. Telfer actually had to take her out a few minutes into the event, so I am not sure how much of it stuck. My favorite quote from the evening: "I don't like plot very much – please contain your surprise. … It becomes a big machine that carries everything after it." Whether Robinson is writing about two sisters in rural Idaho, a wayward son, or a pair of elderly ministers, her characters are "performing the rituals of the ordinary as an act of faith" (quote from Housekeeping). The language is beautiful, deep and the act of reading these novels is richly rewarding.

Kathleen Norris


Acedia and Me by Kathleen Norris
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Where has Kathleen Norris been my whole life? I read The Quotidian Mysteries, Amazing Grace, and Acedia and Me this summer…You know when you "discover" an author and they have written quite a bit and there's so much still to go through? It's such a gift. I love that she's a poet and words and language are so meaningful and deliberate in her writing (sets her apart from almost all other Christian/spiritual writers). This has been such a big year in so many ways and I truly needed the challenge and comfort of Norris's writing.

"I have come to believe that the true mystics of the quotidian are not those who contemplate holiness in isolation, reaching godlike illumination in serene silence, but those who manage to find God in a life filled with noise, the demands of other people and relentless daily duties that can consume the self. They may be young parents juggling child-rearing and making a living; they may be monks or nuns in a small community…If they are wise, they treasure the rare moments of solitude and silence that come their way, and use them not to escape, to distract themselves with television and the like. Instead, they listen for sign of God's presence and they open their hearts toward prayer." [from The Quotidian Mysteries]

Jhumpa Lahiri


Unaccustomed Earth by Jhumpa Lahiri
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If you haven't read anything by Jhumpa Lahiri yet, you really, really should. She has written two short story collections, The Interpreter of Maladies and Unaccustomed Earth and one novel, The Namesake. She writes character-driven stories about the Bengali immigrant experience; her work is accessible and her prose deceptively simple. Her stories leave you wanting full-length novels on the characters introduced.

Olive Kitteridge by Elizabeth Strout


Olive Kitteridge by Elizabeth Strout
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The thirteen connected stories in Olive Kitteridge are about ordinary people living ordinary lives yet Strout manages to infuse heartbreaking moments of truth in every story. And in every story, there stands Olive Kitteridge, a retired math teacher who you can’t help but almost hate at the beginning but can’t help but love at the end. She’s complicated and difficult and prickly, but she is also real and kind. There is a scene where Olive, tired at her son’s wedding, lies down on the bed to rest and hears her new daughter-in-law berate the dress she’s wearing, the dress that she made, the dress that she thinks looks really good on her. It simply broke my heart. I much prefer a novel in stories than a collection of unrelated short stories. If you read one story in Olive Kitteridge, you'd think, yes, this is a good short story, but in reading all thirteen stories there is such a powerful, connected context in the reading experience.

Belong to Me by Marisa de los Santos


Belong to Me by Marisa de los Santos
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Belong to Me is pure joy to read. This is the type of book you want to just get back in bed and read until you finish it (I read it in one day during our Cancun vacation before Cate was born…those were the days…). It's a loose sequel to Love Walked In…but Belong to Me is the better of the two. Cornelia is now married to Teo and living in the suburbs but the focus is larger, chapters are narrated by not just Cornelia, but Piper, Cornelia's caustic neighbor whose best friend Elizabeth is dying of cancer, and Dev, the teenage son of Lake, one of Cornelia's first friends in the suburbs. You'll love it.

Happy New Year


chubbers
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We are recovering from a fussy and sleep-deprived New Year’s Eve and Day…and I don’t just mean Cate is recovering. As Telfer said yesterday, most of the remaining year has to be better than today!

It wasn’t all bad. We watched the Rose Bowl and I made homemade chili & cinnamon rolls for Telfer. I know this food combination has struck some of you as strange before, but it is pretty much my favorite. Invite yourself over sometime and I’ll make both. You will be converted, I promise.

Cate is quite chubby these days – check out the tummy on her! She is in 3-6 month clothing now and it has been sad to pack away all the little baby clothes.

Day after Christmas


Shoes!
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It’s only 12:30 on the day after Christmas, but Cate’s on her third outfit. Good times! The one constant, however, is the shoes on her feet. Aunt Alyssa bought Cate her first pair of shoes for Christmas and we love them!

We have had a lot of firsts the last few days. In keeping with tradition, Telfer and I went out to a nice dinner a couple of days before Christmas, marking our first date alone as parents. Cate stayed with a babysitter who got paid to watch a Christmas movie at our house with her husband (Cate goes to bed at about 6:30!). On Christmas Eve, Cate slept in her own room for the first time. I can’t quite put her in the crib, so she’s still in the bassinet, but she’s sleeping really well down in her room. And now, shoes! What’s next?